Developing And Sustaining A Romantic Godly Marital Relationship — Part One
If you think you're mature in age, buoyant, smart and assumed it time to
get marry. Yet without been acquainted with understanding about how man
often react the way he does or how woman often behave the way she does
things. My beloved, you are ignorantly walking into marital life
imprisonment of frustration because it is only knowledge that qualifies
you to get marry and not age or wealth.
You only get ready for marriage when you have the information and not
when you have someone to marry. Nevertheless, if your marriage is
already faulty, the healthy remedy isn't divorce or second marriage but a
second chance to get knowledge. Therefore, kindly eschew those
elaborate wedding fantasy and curiosity of getting married and go-out
there and get the information stuck into your memory because marital
vehicle doesn't have a reverse gear.
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| Pastor Daniel |
In today marriage discussion we are going to take a long drive into
marriage seminar headed by Pastor Daniel Oyanna days ago in which I was
opportune to witness and I believe you going to gain one or two points
and impact them into you marital engagement because marriage is not for
babies.
DEVELOPING AND SUSTAINING A ROMANTIC GODLY MARITAL RELATIONSHIP
First of all, what do we mean by the word relationship?
Unfortunately, we have gradually adjusted or adapted the word to only
refer to the connection between two persons with a romantic intention.
This is not a crime but it makes it difficult for us to comprehend the
fact that the principles that make for a successful romantic
relationship are not different from those that make for successful
relationships of all types.
This limitation keeps us from doing something that's vital to us as people with functioning minds - learning and adaptation. Ephesian 5:21-32 Submitting
yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves
unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of
the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the
saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto
Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and
gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the
washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a
glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but
that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their
wives as their own bodies.
He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For
no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it,
even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his
flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and
mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one
flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the
church"
These verses show that the principles of love and submission that run
the relationship between the church and Christ are also applicable in
romantic relationships. But the critical issue here is that, in view of
our future romantic relationships, we could study, practice and master
the fine art of loving and submitting in our relationship with God
before we ever get romantically committed with anyone.
Sort of test run these things in one setting then copy and paste it
elsewhere and get it working with fewer mistakes only with some
adjustments. As a matter of fact, some time before I got married, God
said to me, "If you treat your wife the way I treat you, you won't have problems". He was and still is right.
So, a relationship is the word used to refer to a connection between two
otherwise separate entities in such a way that the actions of one
party affects the other automatically affects the other and vice versa,
whether they each choose to or not. In this setting, we shall focus on
the romantic type of relationships.
There is another component of the topic before us that helps is qualify what we are talking about today. The component is the "godly"
bit. A godly relationship can only be experienced by godly people.
Godly does not automatically translate to born again, Holy Ghost filled,
tongue talking. Not all who have been born again are godly. Christian
means Christ-like and that means in spirit as well as actions and
words.
Romans 8:9b ... Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his. A
person can't claim to be godly or a Christian unless the spirit that
makes us Christians is inside of him manifestly. What do I mean by
manifestly? Matthew 7:20 Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them. What fruits?
Gal 5:22-23
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering,
gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is
no law. And in terms of words and actions, we have the scriptures telling us clearly what the pattern is. Acts 1:1
... all that Jesus began both to do and teach, We cannot all be
preachers and teachers but the scriptures still give us our syllabus.
1 Corinthian 11:1 Be ye followers of me, even as I also [am] of Christ. James 3:2
For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the
same [is] a perfect man, [and] able also to bridle the whole body. We
would all love to pass ourselves off as godly simply because we have
identified ourselves as Christians but the truth is, not all of us are.
The better umbrella terms would be Church People because that would
accommodate us all but there is a dangerous warning in the scriptures. 2 Timothy 2:19
Nevertheless the foundation of God standeth sure, having this seal, The
Lord knoweth them that are his. And, Let every one that nameth the name
of Christ depart from iniquity. Why am I going on and on about this as if that's the main subject here?
It's because the principles I teach as espoused in the scriptures are
for godly people and can only work in the hands of such people who are
fully surrendered to the Lord. The issue is not that they are without
fault or flaws but that when they do fall, they do not pretend that they
didn't. Instead, they acknowledge it and stand before God for a
cleansing so they can continue to please God in their thoughts and
actions.
One chance meeting with you is not enough to persuade someone else that
you're godly. It takes a while to study a tree in order to identify the
kind of fruits it bears and to be certain that those fruits were
actually grown by the tree and not merely stapled on like Christmas tree
decorations.
See, there is a certain scripture that brings me pain every time I read
it since the day God opened my eyes to see a second truth hidden
therein. 2 Kings 4:8 And
it fell on a day, that Elisha passed to Shunem, where [was] a great
woman; and she constrained him to eat bread. And [so] it was, [that] as
oft as he passed by, he turned in thither to eat bread.
2 Kings 4:9 And she said unto her husband, Behold now, I perceive that this [is] an holy man of God, which passeth by us continually. Elisha
had been passing and taking refreshment at this woman's house for some
time before she came to the conclusion that he was a holy man of God.
What God said to me was that it means that other men of God had passed
by this woman's house who were not holy men of God.
He further said, there are men of God who are not holy men of God.
Tears came to my eyes that day ... They still do. This does not apply
only to pulpit ministers of the Gospel alone but to all of us. And,
guys, do you know the funny thing, we all want to marry godly women. We
want a holy and just God to grant us our heart's desires by giving to us
one of His holy precious daughters and we expect such prayers to be
answered.
If you were in God's shoes, what would you do? Of course, this is
applies to the sisters as well. Seeking a godly relationship also means
we cannot, and will not, do things the way of the world. It means we
will treat each other how the word of God dictates we should and it
means we would have nothing to do with unscriptural behavior and
activities. I believe we will touch more on this later. "To Be Continue In Second Part"